A letter to my daughters

It is my prayer today that you will not be easily fooled by the world’s lies.  The world’s deception that a woman is only worth any value if she has a mate – that she is only of value if she is attractive and perfect, all of the time.  That she is only of value if there is a boy to tell her she is worth anything.  To believe that if your’e not attached to a male, if you don’t have a boyfriend, an admirer or a thousand admirers that your’e nothing of value in this society.

 

Advertising, media, movies, television, music, the mall, shopping, magazines and every other form of printed or internet related “propaganda” of our current society will attempt to sell you these lies on a regular basis.

 

It will tell you that you NEED their product to be beautiful, to be good enough, to be thin enough, to be anything enough.  It will attempt to teach you that you are lacking – always in need of something to improve you; your appearance, your self, your worth.  It will attempt to sell you anything it can get you to buy through these lies.  The lie that you aren’t good enough, the lie that you are lacking.  The ultimate lie: that you can get what you need without God.

 

And that’s where you can know the lie begins.

 

Real knowledge begins with God, it doesn’t begin without Him.

 

If God is not involved, it doesn’t matter how beautiful, how fun or how entertaining it is – it is not the beginning of wisdom or a road that will lead you to life.  It will never set you free.  It will bind you.  And you will hate it.  And you will fight it for the rest of your life until you allow the truth to set you free.  The truth, no matter how painful, ugly or uncomfortable, will always set you free.

 

Some people spend their whole lives searching, striving and straining to get what it is they are after.  Affirmation of their value, their worth.  Sometimes things or people or positions give a temporary feeling of fulfilled affirmation – however in the end, it always comes up needy again.

 

The only thing that will ever fully meet your needs isn’t a thing at all, it is in Christ Jesus.  I promise.  Not even your dad or I can fully meet your needs for acceptance, approval or feeling of value.  As much as we love you, we will still fail you in some way, because we too, like you are human.  Well intentioned boys will fail you, good intentioned friends will fail you, your job, your hobbies, even you will fail you.  But there is good news – God will never fail you.

 

It is my prayer that you can know and believe these things from a young age.  That although apart of your peer group, you are never swayed as they are by societies every shifting view of beauty, value or desire for acceptance.  Once you can know that your truest value and beauty is found in the Lord, you are then set free to live life the way God intended – with him.  Set free to love yourself entirely, because that is indeed how Christ loves you.  He died for you, right there in your sinful nature.  He loves you when your sleeping.  He loves you even when you make mistakes.  He loves you when your hair is a mess, and your breath unruly.  He loves you when you are dressed up and feel beautiful and when you are all dirty and a mess and feel like you need a shower.  He loves you always.  Your value in this life is not based on your ability to visually please men in a sexual nature.  Yes, you will visually please your husband in a sexual nature, but that is not your value, it is a gift to be enjoyed, by you, and by your husband. Your value is found in the fact that God the Father, chose to send his only Son, Christ, down to earth, to die for you.  He was willing to give everything, just to be with you.  You, you, imperfectly flawed, beautiful you.

 

Your value begins in that place.  The place where you realize how truly loved and adored you are by the King of this life.  The world (and satan) will try to convince you that God is not the King, that self is the king, and there the lie is again.  Nothing in this life will bring you the true knowledge of your value except trusting God with your entire heart.

 

“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30

 

Or as I like to say it, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty will fade (no matter how much plastic surgery you can afford), but a woman who fully trusts in the Lord will be free to enjoy her life fully, never afraid or lacking, but fully confident in the Lord her God.”

 

You can make yourself look beautiful, you can wear fancy clothes, outfits and do your hair – but it must always remain secondary, secondary to the truth that God loved you first, without any of that, and that is where you are truly the most beautiful.  You must know and believe deep down that you are of value because the King says you are of value, and nothing else.

 

I love you just the way you are,

Mom

 

inspired by a Veggie Tales episode, my hatred of Pinterest fitness/thin pins, ridiculous magazine ads and the bible.

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